Last Sunday, Pastor Conway preached the first message of the Stuck series entitled, “Preparing for a Holy Hookup.” The message was geared mostly towards single men and women. Here are the answers to the questions that received about the message.Q: What if they both were not saved when getting together but got saved after dating, do you think that this will still apply??
A. Absolutely, once you choose to follow Christ you are choosing to live according to Biblical principles.
Q. If you are currently dating someone that doesn’t know their calling should you stop dating him?
A. He should either know his purpose or be taking the initiative without your help to seek it. You should not have to tell him to go find it. He should be seeking it on his own.
Q: What was the 3rd point in the message?
A: The 3rd point was to “accept your issue”.
Q: What do I do when I face the issues ?
A: When you face issues, you must then choose to grow in maturity by understanding what God’s word has to say about the issues. Then, search your heart for the source of the issues. And finally, have a person/people walk with you and speak truth into your life as you grow.
Q: I have a question about guarding your heart. How do you do that without hardening your heart…especially after having been hurt??
A: You guard your heart by setting boundaries with your emotions, prayer and seeking objective godly council from people you trust. Also, I recommend our book, “When Love’s in View: Finding Focus in Dating and Relationships.” It has great tools on guarding your heart. Additionally, it is not about hardening your heart but using wisdom in who you let in and how far you let them in. This means that some people of your same sex (through life group or an accountability partner) must be able to know your heart. They will help you guard it and it will help you build trust. God can restore you!
Q: How do you guard your heart?
A: You guard your heart by setting boundaries with your emotions, prayer and seeking objective godly council from people you trust. Also, I recommend our book, “When Love’s in View: Finding Focus in Dating and Relationships.” It has great tools on guarding your heart.
Q: What does it mean to have a calling? Can you have a calling to do something other than preach?
A: A calling is the purpose/mission God has for you. There are many purposes that God has for His people. He may call you to shape the lives of children through mentoring/teaching. He may call you to assist people in their finances. OrHe may call you to share your love of the arts for His glory. There are many tools and books that can help such as “Now Discover Your Strengths” and “Go Put Your Strengths To Work” by Marcus Buckingham or “Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren.
Q: If there is mental and/or physical abuse once you are married, are you stuck?
A: Although the Bible is clear that we should be loving and not abusive, we firmly believe that all efforts must be made for reconciliation; even if that includes temporary separation under the supervision of church leaders. Safety is always a priority so we have no problem with supervised separation. This gives both people an opportunity to work through their issues and prayerfully pursue unity.
Q: How do you find out what he [God] called you for?
A: There are many tools and books that can help such as “Now Discover Your Strengths” and “Go Put Your Strengths To Work” by Marcus Buckingham or “Purpose Driven Life” by Rick Warren. Of course, this process must be covered with prayer and you should have a person/people walking along the journey with you to affirm or deny what you believe God is telling you. (If you are a women, we are currently doing a purpose series in Bible study)